Imagine that among the eight billion inhabitants of the planet, you have finally found the one or the very one. A person to whom you have become really attached or even fallen head over heels in love with. There's only one catch. This person is your ex's friend or your ex's girlfriend. And what to do in such a situation?
On the one hand, there is nothing wrong with having a love relationship with friends of former partners. An emotionally mature person won't throw a tantrum because you're dating someone he's friends with just because you've dated him before. On the other hand, a lot depends on the relationship between friends, and on your relationship with a new partner. Here's how to figure it out.
To understand whether it is worth developing a relationship with a friend of an ex or a girlfriend of an ex, you need to honestly answer yourself a variety of questions:
And finally, the main question is whether it is worth talking about everything to the former partner? It's best to be honest about what's going on, even if it's going to be the most awkward conversation of your life. You can do this before or after you start dating. But remember that you are not talking about this because you need permission, but because you respect your past love relationships and the friendship of your former and current partners.
Obviously, in such a situation, everyone's relationship with everyone becomes confusing and complicated. Therefore, from the very beginning it is necessary to mark the boundaries. For example, to agree with a new partner that you will not discuss your previous relationship or even see your former partner. It is important that these arrangements suit everyone. If you feel that you are being pressured or forced into something, this is a bad sign.
Most likely, your mutual friends will be divided into two camps: those who will understand you, and those who will condemn you. Nevertheless, if you really love a person and see a joint future with him, and he reciprocates you, the past should not stop you.
You both have to decide whether you are ready to face censure and misunderstanding from others and work on the relationship. If both you and your new partner want to be together, you have every chance to go through this ordeal. Over time, everything will calm down. So do not give up happiness because of public opinion.