Most people choose S. Drefahl. How Does the Age Gap Between Partners Affect Their Survival? / Demography the partner is about his own age, with a difference of two to three years. Moreover, the youngest participant in the relationship, as a rule, is a girl.
Perhaps that is why the union of a young guy and an adult woman is perceived as something unusual and not quite normal. At the same time, in the sexual sphere, such a choice can give certain advantages to both partners.
Sex therapist Oksana Shtyrkova says that young guys and mature women have the same needs for sex. The fact is that boys and girls have different ways of becoming and developing sexuality.
Boys try it before O. Cervilla, J. C. Sierra. Masturbation parameters related to orgasm satisfaction in sexual relationships: Differences between men and women / Frontiers in psychiatry masturbation, they do it more often and understand how to have fun faster. And later, when they start having sex, penetration sex does not cause them discomfort and almost always leads to orgasm.
At the age of 20-27, men are not yet burdened with problems, they are free, healthy and active. They have a need for sex, but communication skills are not always present. They do not know how to please a woman and how to build an interaction so that both partners feel good.
At the same time, girls aged 20-25 often do not know themselves what brings them the most pleasure in sex. For example, penicovaginal contact is not enough for many to achieve orgasm. So, one survey showed that only 69% of women can J. Richters, R. de Visser, C. Rissel. Sexual practices at last heterosexual encounter and occurrence of orgasm in a national survey / Journal of sex research cum from ordinary penetration — the rest need additional stimulation of the clitoris with their hands and oral caresses.
And even if a girl understands what she needs to achieve orgasm, she may be shy about a frank conversation and not tell her partner about her desires.
By the age of 30-35, many more women will know their sexuality. They enjoy themselves and their bodies, talk calmly about sex and can convey their needs to a partner.
A woman gives clarity, which is so lacking for young men. Gives an answer to the question: "What do I need to do to make you feel good?"
Thus, a mature woman helps a young partner learn more about sex, and he gives her his energy and passion.
It is not uncommon to hear that if a young man meets with a mature woman, he is trying to find a mother for himself and receive not so much the love of a partner as the care of an adult. The transfer of the parental figure to the partner can indeed happen sometimes, but it does not depend at all on the age difference.
Choosing a partner of any age is often due to trauma, postponement, immature needs and unconsciousness. Simply put, a couple with a difference of two or three years can calmly make claims to each other and build a parent—child type of interaction. For example, when the wife is in full control of the spouse: she gives him pocket money, makes sure that he does not play the computer for a particularly long time.
At the same time, in a couple with a large age difference, both partners can be psychologically mature and responsible.
In family psychology, the age difference of one generation deserves only a little more attention. In other words, if in a union of adults one of the partners is 18-20 years older than the other, this is not considered a sign of pathology or a barrier to building a healthy relationship.
Therefore, the difference in years says nothing about the quality of the union. If a couple has a respectful attitude, good sex, communication and love, the age of the partners does not matter.
