Every person has a cherished dream. Everyone dreams, from a child to an ancient old man. There are no rules and limits for a dream. You can't just forbid anyone to dream, never. No one can kill a dream except... ourselves. We ourselves easily give up our dreams because of laziness or apparent benefits. If you tell a person that his dreams are ridiculous, he will not stop dreaming. But if he decides that this is nonsense, then the dream goes away.
And there are those who do not give up, but sometimes go astray. The further you go, the harder it is to come back. And along the way there are a huge number of temptations, well disguised as the right path. What terrible thing will happen if I stay a little longer on this pleasant stretch of the road? Or this passerby has seen life and is talking, maybe I should listen to him? And gradually a huge wall of your apologies, constant delays, glances at someone nearby and banal laziness grows in front of you. Everyone has their own wall and their own obstacles. But you can always return to the road to the dream. The main thing is to carefully monitor the warning signs ;)
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Who among us did not justify why it was not possible to do what we wanted, or what we should have done? Starting from school (my dog ate a textbook) and ending with serious work (I'm standing in traffic, forgot my keys, transferred an old lady across the street).
There are people who make excuses only occasionally, and someone's whole life is a solid excuse. And so they accumulate and accumulate until a critical mass is gained, and you are swept away by an avalanche of «failed », «could not », «delayed », «I don't know how » etc.
The most interesting and important thing is that we come up with all these excuses ourselves. And at the same time, part of us is well aware that in this way he is simply trying to get away from the difficult path that leads to the fulfillment of a dream. Those who understand this and work on themselves will definitely succeed.
I do not know a single person who has not experienced fear at least once in his life. It can be the fear of anything. But the most common option (fear of losing loved ones and phobias do not count) is the fear of failure. It's scary to start something that you've never done before. What if it doesn't work out?! It's scary to go to work in another country, it's scary to go to an important meeting. Even positive changes are always at least a little, but scary.
Someone is saved by the mantra «everything that is done is done for the better», someone needs a strong shoulder to back up nearby, someone needs the right «kick » from life. The one who was able to overcome his fear and cross the line is already halfway to success. And someone continues to be afraid of everything all his life and sits in his safe cocoon, afraid to stick out his nose. And the achievement of a dream is postponed and postponed until it's too late.
If everyone continued to be afraid to do something new, humanity would still be running through the woods with sticks.
Analysis is not always a bad thing. It is good to analyze financial indicators before deciding where and how much money to invest. But there are things that at the initial stage do not lend themselves to rational analysis. He just kills them.
When analyzing, you can find a lot of frightening moments that may or may not happen. In any case, until you try — you will not know! Sometimes, on the way to a dream, it's worth putting logic aside and acting intuitively. For example, Steve Jobs was great at balancing analysis and intuition.
It seems to me that there is nothing more distant and unrealizable than the date «someday ». Someday I'll leave here. Someday I will do a job that I like. Someday I'll lose weight. Someday I will learn to ride a wind surf. Someday I'll have a family. Someday I'll tell him what I think and I won't hold back. The list of similar « someday » can be continued indefinitely.
Are you sure that this cherished time will come at all? Do you have your own to-do list with a shortcut «someday»? Maybe you should reconsider the date?
Oh, this is the second most common excuse after «someday ». If only I had been born in another country. If only I had more money. If only I hadn't listened to my parents and done as I wanted. If... if, if only...
It's all wrong! These are the banal excuses of those who are just too lazy. I know people who, at a fairly mature age, ventured to a foreign country, practically not knowing the language. As a result, at the age of forty, they successfully entered the university, graduated with honors and now work at a job that they like. And if they thought that they were so unlucky to be born in Ukraine, that they do not have the right working connections, without which they cannot get a decent job, then they would be sitting in their small positions, waiting for handouts.
And this example is not the only one! I could start a conversation about people with special needs who do things that a full-fledged person is not able to do at all, because everyone is waiting for the right opportunity or complains about the lack of the right moment.
Are you worried that you can't give people something special? Something they expect from you?
We all have something to share with the world. Something that can make it at least a little better. Add the drop that makes up the ocean. It's stupid to be afraid that you can't do something better than others, or that you're not that talented.
Someone just does what he is interested in, absolutely not thinking about the fact that these actions help others to get closer to the dream at least one step.
You can be very comfortable in the little world that you have created around you. But this world, alas, is not at all what you once dreamed of. And if you hadn't been afraid and continued on your way, then someday your dreams would have come true... maybe.
It is very difficult to leave your comfort zone and start doing at least something in the right direction. Especially if you are scared and the work is not the most pleasant. Many remain in place. You should think very carefully about whether you are satisfied with the current situation, and look a little ahead. Because what is good now, tomorrow may not be so convenient. If you realize that something is going wrong, go beyond the boundaries of comfort and start doing what you think is right.
Conclusion
Watch this video again — very motivating. It just contains all the items listed in the article! And if after it you don't get up from your chair and start acting, then I don't know what motivation can change you. Maybe you just don't have a dream?
This article came to me for a reason, but because I am 5 days away from realizing one small but pleasant dream. I have a long list, so I have to work and work. I hope that you are not sitting idly by.
I have been taught since childhood that no matter what happens, it is not worth looking for the guilty. Because everything depends only on my actions and reactions. Yes, I can't control others, but I can control myself!
