We are all probably familiar with the situation with aggressive or almost aggressive and unfriendly behavior of people who are often called energy vampires. No, they won't leave a scar on your neck, but they can definitely spoil your blood.
The damage to our consciousness is caused by the humiliation of our self-esteem, primitive insults and the literal destruction of your worldview of varying severity.
There are, of course, methods to protect yourself from such attacks, but if you are already suffering from someone and would like to stop feeling sorry for yourself, the tips below can help you:
- Cut the umbilical cord
There is no need for constant excavations that you arrange in your past. Admit that it was like that, but don't cling to it and don't deny what happened. A good help for this can be a change of scenery.
- Grow self-esteem
The offenders are constantly destroying it: you should strengthen this building. Concentrate on your strengths, develop and communicate as much as possible with those who appreciate you.
- The power is in your hands
The abuser gets an emotional advantage simply because he thinks he has power over you. Do not succumb to provocations: in the life of every person there is only one person who has true power over him, that is himself.
- Only you know what you need
Your opponent may try to convince you that he knows better what you need and what suits you. There may be many reasons for this, including a banal attempt to use you. For the success of your relationship, you should clearly define the boundaries of someone's influence on your life and do not forget to think about yourself.
- We only manage ourselves
It should be noted that continuing a relationship in the hope of correcting someone is a rather pointless activity: we can't change anyone but ourselves. Therefore, we should think more about how to respond to people's actions without losing our dignity.
- Take the time to plan
Yes, yes, understand what offends you the most and set boundaries beyond which no one is allowed to cross. Promise yourself not to allow this and you will feel that your personality has become a little more protected.
- Do what you like
Hobbies, entertainment, trips — occupy your time with something that will please you and make you happy. Don't let the ghosts of the abuser spoil your life.
